How do people turn what we say they want into what they actually get?

Many articles, books and workshops advise us to conduct one's self “as if.” Behave as if you already have your dream job. Act as if you’re successful — function from confidence.

If we support the theory behind our actions, it means that we behave in alignment with the intentions we desire, and we’re more likely to achieve it.
 
Problems will arise when we don’t genuinely want the life we think we want. For example, we may say that we want to find a loving partner, be at our ideal weight, or start our own business but if we honestly don’t want the added responsibilities of behaving “as if,” your effort will be an empty exercise.

So what’s the solution?

Here are some ways I suggest you begin.

First, I recommend you begin slowly. When we decide to make a significant change in our lives, we often try to do too many things at once and find ourselves overwhelmed or discouraged. You need to focus on one thing that’ll get you clo...

Imagine a résumé for our “subconscious”—that part of us that holds all the stuff we deny, discount, disown, bury or pretend does not exist:

Vengeful, easily victimized, lazy, bad, untrustworthy. Excel at hopelessness and rage, an expert on greed. Not creative. Never finish what I start. Stupid, a loner, damaged goods. Nurture evil thoughts. Certainly unlovable.

No one wants to admit to a dark side—it can be a frightening and shocking experience to our self-image. We spend vast amounts of energy denying and repressing this unwanted inferior self.  

What many of us don’t realize is that the shadow can be a helpful aspect of ourselves that holds the key to transformation—a loyal friend bearing the gifts of depth, integrity, vitality, and wholeness—if we choose to meet it and love it.

“Perhaps all the dragons of our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us once, beautiful and brave,” said poet Ranier Maria Rilke. “Perhaps everything terrible is in its deepest being something that ...

"What will you do with your precious life?"

Suppose I stopped you in the middle of your day to ask you this question posed by psychologist and poet Mary Oliver. What a beautiful opportunity to respond that you would spend your life exactly as you spent your day.

Your answer could be anything: doing work you love, caring for and giving love to your family, contributing to your community or the world, creating art, building a business, climbing mountains, making music. The key is that how you lived today is how you would choose to live tomorrow and the next day and the rest of your future.

For some, the life they live day to day is not the life they would describe if they were asked Mary Oliver's question. Instead, they might use phrases such as: "As soon as I can quit…" or "I'd like to lose…" or  "I used to dream about…" while explaining a daily life tangled up in too many demands and never enough time or energy to achieve the experiences that matter most to us.

According to Jinny Ditzle...

Believe it or not, stress is not the villain it's made out to be. In small, short-term doses, stress can give an athlete the competitive edge or a public speaker the enthusiasm to project optimally. It can even boost the immune system.

However, chronic stress over time—the kind commonly encountered in daily life, such as work overload, financial difficulties, marital problems—can have significant adverse effects on nearly every system of the body, suppressing the immune system and ultimately manifesting as an illness.

The danger occurs when stress becomes persistent and consistent, a way of life. Chronic stress raises the risk of viral infection and diabetes. It can trigger severe problems for asthmatics, lead to gastrointestinal issues and cause high blood pressure, which brings an increased risk of heart disease and stroke.

To get a handle on this silent adversary, you want first to recognize that you are chronically stressed. Here are four kinds of warning signs:

Cognitive symptoms in...

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Surround yourself with people who believe in you and inspire you to be the best version of yourself. ~Anutza Bellissimo

When unfavorable situations, actions and emotional conflicts happen again and again in your life, you may find yourself in the same scene, with different characters, more often than you care to admit. If so, there’s a good chance you are in the presence of a negative “pattern.”

Some examples:  constant conflict with co-workers, people-pleasing, or picking unsuitable partners/lovers.

At best, these negative patterns cause frustration. At worst, they create undue suffering, uphill struggles, sometimes even death.

The good news is: you have the power to change these negative patterns. Allow me to share with you some ways to begin disrupting your dominant negative patterns so that you can start laying down new, more positive habits. It's also helpful to keep in mind; "When you know what you don't want, you know what you do want."

Practice Your Presence.
No matter how entrenched a pattern seems, the act of noticing begins the shift away from damaging thoughts or behaviors. Simply put, you can't...

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“ I was very nervous to face my anger and stress management problems. It is an issue that has affected many aspects of my life for 30+ years. And, since this was a voluntary enrollment, it was something I put off for a long time. From the moment I first spoke with Anutza on the phone, I felt like I was in the right hands. Her calm, patient and attentive nature guided me towards the healing I needed. I appreciate both the structure of the program and her use of her own elements. It makes the program feel very personalized. I am very grateful for the changes that have occurred as a result of our work together. With love and appreciation.”~Angela R. - Beverly Hills, CA.

History Channel:

The seven deadly sins, they exist in each of us; lust, envy, gluttony, sloth, greed, anger, and pride. The sin of anger had evolved over the centuries. Christian theology once said that those who commit the sin, face the eternal fires of hell. But there are some sinners who are tormented by anger even in this life.

John:

I was in a relationship. Things didn't go well, to sum it up and didn't know how to handle it, went and bought two gallons of gasoline, broke out the windows in the middle of the day time. I live in an apartment complex, filled her car up with gas, set it on fire, blew up the car in her underground parking lot. The whole place had to be evacuated and I could have killed hundreds of people.

Memo:

I snapped. I beat him up bad enough where the courts to say you know what, do five years prison time.

History Channel:

These men aren't dealing with their sin through confession and repentance but through anger management. The sin of anger is so wide spr...